When Your Husband's Mistress is a Man
Sexual affairs can be extremely painful to deal with if you're the one who's been cheated on. It's even worse when you Lovinga discover that your husband is cheating on you with other men. Here are some tips to get yourself in order as you deal with this unique form of infidelity.
1. Don't compare yourself to the other lover. The prospect of a man cheating on you with another man can be scary because, let's face it, you feel as if you have nothing to compete with when it comes to his attraction. No woman wants to be compared to another woman at all, but at least she's going to have all the same equipment you do. A man is a completely LetmeDate.com different story - and truth be told, it's not worth harping over.
2. Get tested IMMEDIATELY. Not to sound homophobic or hateful, but it's been reported that an overwhelming number of women involved with men who live on the down low have an increased risk of HIV/AIDS. It's said that because these men feel AIDS/HIV is a "gay man's disease" and that they're not gay (yeah, okay!) that they're not susceptible to the disease. Don't take any chances with your health and run to the nearest doctor.
3. Avoid sexual activity with him. Even if he were having sex with another woman, I would still recommend this. Sexual intimacy is a gift and display of trust in a loving monogamous relationship- something you thought you had with this man. This is not about punishing him for his actions - even though that would partially suffice - it's about making sure you decrease your exposure to whatever he's possibly contracted during behavior.
4. Clear your head and figure out what YOU want to do. Depending on the length and seriousness of the relationship, SharekAlomre.com review you might find it hard to immediately come to a decision to leave him. There may be children, money, and other factors involved in your decision, and you need to ensure you're level-headed and clear in your final decision to stay or leave.
5. Accept no excuses. Your husband may come out swinging when you confront him and try to justify his behavior. (This also goes for the ladies whose men have cheated with other women as well.) There is no excuse for cheating - a cheater cheats because he cannot be honest with his feelings and desires and, deep down, knows his behavior isn't appropriate. Don't second guess yourself in light of his nasty excuses.
6. Know that this too will pass. Life hands us some painful and random curveballs, some so bad we don't know how or why we can continue living. As a friend once said, "Disguised blessings in life that offer opportunities for spiritual growth and alignment to love are often missed because they are presented as traumatic events." Work through the pain one day at a time and you'll eventually get past this hurdle as well.
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