I caught my husband having a sex with another man whom I thought was his friend from work. When I confronted them, the man ran out the house but my husband told me that it was a one time thing and they are not gay. He said that sometimes he needs a little action on the side LetmeDate and women give too many problems and that he would never break my heart with another woman. I asked him why he felt the need to have sex with another man and he said "all men do it and have curiosities" but it doesn't make them gay.
Since then I have not seen his friend and my husband says he's sorry but I cannot get the images out of our head. I can't have sex with him anymore because I feel disgusted by what he's done and I wonder if the fact that I've gained weight after having two kids has anything to do with it. My husband wants to go to counseling but I don't know if it can help us. I haven't told anyone what happened because I am completely embarrassed. Please help me, I'm so miserable and I'm also scared I have AIDS.
Words probably can't describe the pain you're feeling YourLatinMates.com right now. It's excruciating enough to discover your husband's cheating on you, but the fact he's been with another man doubles the anguish. I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this.
Your husband - to be blunt - is full of it. He wants you to go to counseling with him, but for what? Chances are this isn't the first time he's had sex with a man, and it damn sure will not be the last time either. I'm disgusted that he had the nerve to say he always needs something on the side and uses men so he "doesn't break your heart with another woman." Hmph! As if it would hurt you less to see him have sex with someone he paraded off to you as a friend! He was still lying, manipulative and dishonest - in your OWN home!
Another problem I have with his argument is that he says "all men get curious and try it." FALSE! Not every man engages in sex with other men, and real men, regardless of their orientation, don't need to lie to kick it! He needs counseling so that he can fully accept TripTogether.com review his sexuality instead of keeping it in the closet.
Honestly speaking, I think it's best to leave him. He cannot be a whole and honest person in this marriage if you stay. Even if you guys went to counseling, you forgave him, you lost weight, and Skittles rained from the sky, it's not going to fix the problem. He's still going to have sex with men, and based off how you've reacted this time around, he'll just take greater pains to hide his homosexual lifestyle from you.
If by chance you feel you cannot leave him, then be advised that his behavior may never stop and ask yourself if this is something you can deal with. Can you stand the idea of never being able to trust your husband around any of his male friends and associates, or even making love to him? I don't believe that this marriage doesn't stand any chance of being fixed, but I will say I think the possibility is slim-to-none, especially when it seems as if he's completely justified in acting the way he has. If you have sex with him, please protect yourself by insisting upon the use of condoms and regular visits for both of you to the doctor. You don't know if he's used protection with any of his partners and you do not want him to give you something you'll never get rid of, if you catch my drift.
Elle Peterson is the more vocal presence of He Cheated on Me, an informative relationship weblog with an enhanced concentration on infidelity and cheating.
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